Look to your right and now look to your left. Is there anyone in your bed that shouldn’t be there? If you are single, your bed should be empty. If you’re married, you should be sleeping in the same bed as your spouse. -1 Corinthians 6:18  (NLT)  says to run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body. As a Christian, your body doesn’t belong to you. You are simply a manager over your body and there are standards that we must live by as Christians.

For years, I dated random boyfriends and although we said we were Christians, we lived a doubled life. We said we loved Jesus but we refused to keep His standards. We stayed the night together on a regular basis but all along, I felt a tugging conviction in my heart. I was torn. I wanted to live for Jesus but I also didn’t want to feel lonely. I wanted to live His way, but I wasn’t sure that I would meet anyone one day that would actually live this bible that we claimed we believed. I heard God say to me, “Heather, that man didn’t pay the price for you. I paid for you and he doesn’t deserve you.” There’s a precious price for you called marriage. And on your way to marriage, you deserve to be married to a man that really loves Jesus and will honor your body until you get married.

After that last boyfriend, I knew that I needed to get whole. I was sick and tired of jumping from one relationship to the next relationship. I was tired of letting my little boyfriends use me. I was tired of using them. I was tired of pretending that I was a real Christian. I was tired of always feeling guilty. I wanted God’s best for my life and I knew that it was going to cost me something. It was going to cost my entire life.

 So, I gave my entire heart to Jesus and I started to live it. Then, over time—I met my now husband. We went on our first date and he told me that he wasn’t going to kiss me until our wedding day. One year and eight months later, we kissed for the first time after we were announced Mr. & Mrs. Cornelius Lindsey. After dating the worlds way and then courting God’s way—there’s really no comparison. God truly honors those that honor Him and it’s beyond worth it. I would do it all over again in a heartbeat. 

I’m reminded of Matthew 16:24 which says: “Then Jesus said to his disciples, “If any of you wants to be my follower, you must turn from your selfish ways, take up your cross, and follow me.” So, what ways are you selfish in your heart? Do you seek to use people to fill your voids? Do you use men for money? Do you have sex outside of marriage because you “want” to do what you want to do? 

God isn’t telling you not to have sex outside of marriage to beat you with some stick and to take away all of your “fun.” He designed sex specifically for marriage. He’s protecting you from STDS, soul ties, children outside of wedlock, heartbreaks and clouded vision. When you have sex with that man and you’re not in a committed marriage, you’re blinded to who he really is as a person. Whenever you have problem, sex becomes your solution. You continue to have sex and it becomes your foundation. You think that you love him but you haven’t really passed any tests together. Sex is your foundation and the minute you get into a huge fight, your foundation will crumble. Then, you get married and you find out that you’ve never really communicated because being physical was your solution. Then, the sex gets old, you “grow” apart and you blame his co-worker for breaking up your marriage. Sister, you should have said goodbye at hello. God is trying to protect you early on and show you that His way is the best way. The question is this: will you give Him a chance to be your God or are you too busy replacing Him with another? Remember that when you begin to feel lonely, it’s God drawing you back to Him and reminding you that you’ve replaced Him with someone or something else. Is it your job? Is it your friends? Is it pornography? Masturbation?  Who or what has placed a wedge in between you and our Father? Cut it off, burn it, throw away your laptop—do what you have to do to get back to this place of honoring God with your entire life. Guard your thought life and be intentional about living for Jesus. It’s so worth it. He’s waiting for you.

I am praying for you tonight. 

Choose life.


God loves you like crazy, 

Heather Lindsey

I want to thank Heather Lindsey for her realness and obedience. The only way to SEE the change is to BE  the change. She is boldly passionate about living Christ and she does it beautifully. I am inspired and I WILL follow in her steps. Take the Pinky Promis pledge and raise your standard of life. You deserve the best ladies! ♥

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